guess how much I love you?

Not sure if you or your kiddos watch Nick Jr., but I love hearing the song (and singing to my boys) "Guess how much I love you?"

simply because I A.D.O.R.E. my boys.  

But this post is not about them.  It's about my "other" boy.

Today is "Guess How Much I Love My Husband?" Day.  Yep.  I made it a "day."

even though it's really every single day in my world.

As a married couple (or dating, if you aren't there yet), we all have moments in our relationships that we'll never forget.  Moments that hold a special place in our hearts.  Moments that we'll share with our kids one day... showing them how much love their parents have for each other and modeling what a real, and Godly relationship should look like.

Yesterday, my husband and I had a moment.  It might not have meant much to him.... but it did to me.

He will absolutely kill me when he finds out I've shared all of this in a blog post.  But immediately after it happened, I knew I had to tell somebody.  Not to brag on my husband, but to show others what husbands are supposed to do for their wives.

It has nothing to do with going to work each day, cutting the grass, going to the dump, washing the cars, playing "Superman" with the boys... although, I am so thankful to have a husband who does all of those things without complaining.

But this was something he did JUST FOR ME.

We were just laying around, having a lazy day, and I can't even remember how the conversation started.  But he began to tell me all the things he loves about me.

All of the things I'm good at.

All of my talents and positive characteristics.

Things that make me a good mother.

Things that make me a good wife.

Things that make me a good person.

He went on.... and on... and on.

My reply was, "I'm really not as good at those things as YOU think I am.  It's just because you love me."

Nope.  He honestly thinks I'm super.

and he tells me on a regular basis.

One thing I'm NOT good at is self confidence.

I am fully aware of this and he reminds me often.

But I think it's a good thing.  I might be good at a few things but one thing I NEVER, EVER want to become is proud.

For me, humility is the way to go.

Now, I promise there's a reason why I told you about our little "moment."

And here's my message to you...

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To the girls who are searching for their soulmate:

Search diligently, pray hard, and choose wisely.

Before jumping into a relationship, there are so many things you need to determine.

But one of the most important questions you should ask yourself is:

Does he cherish me?

Cherish means: to cling fondly to;  to hold dear;  to nurture;  to care for tenderly;  to treat with value.

Make sure he values you and knows exactly what you're worth.

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To the married ladies:

Does your husband cherish you?  Does he tell you DAILY how much he loves you?  You can never hear it too many times.

(most importantly, it's a 2-way street.  make sure he knows how much you love and appreciate him, or don't expect it in return.)

Does he have desire in his eyes toward you?  Is the passion that you had for each other when you first began your journey together still undeniable?  Or has it faded?

If it's not what it once was, reevaluate your love for each other.  Pray.  Ask God to remind you WHY you fell in love to begin with.  He'll bring to your attention all of the things you love about each other.

And then, act on it.  Show (and tell) your husband how much he means to you.  Make sure he knows that he's loved and appreciated and is #1 in your life.

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To the men:

If you're still searching for the right girl, make sure you find one who is "the whole package."

Make sure she lights a fire in your bones when she walks into the room.

Make sure you see all of the good qualities about her and what makes her a spectacular catch.

Make sure you can picture yourself loving her, and only her, for the rest of your life.

And never forget to tell her how much she's loved.

If you're a married man, you carry the weight of providing for your family.  

Make sure that you aren't taken for granted.

Make sure your wife still looks at you with fire in her eyes.

Whether your love is brand new or mature, you have an obligation to your wife.

Never forget that promise you made, to love her through think and thin.

Tell her how much she means to you.

Tell her all of the reasons you fell in love with her.  Make sure she knows how special she is.

Us women really need to hear it sometimes.

With all of our wife/mom duties, we sometimes forget our worth.

But we deserve to have a husband who makes us feel like a million bucks.

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I am so thankful for my husband... and I hope my boys grow up to be JUST LIKE HIM.

Smart, strong, faithful, and full of love.